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How to Word Your Invitation: Formally or Informally

What’s the difference between formal and informal wedding invitation wording? When should I use formal and informal wording. We’ve gathered a few examples below to help you make this decision but first let’s consider what kind of celebration you’re planning.

The best way to determine which style of wording you want to use is to ask yourself how formal you want the wedding to be. Are you planning a wedding that’s rooted in tradition? An upscale soirée? Then we recommend using formal invitation wording. If you want a casual vibe and tradition is not top on your priority list, then casual wedding invitation wording is a great fit.

Still not sure what you want to do? We’ve put together an entire wedding invitation ensemble, from save the date to thank you, featuring both formal and informal wording. Read through these examples, and you’ll have a better idea of what you’d like to use for your wedding stationery.

How to Word Your Invitation: Formally or Informally

Save the Dates
Normally we suggest choosing a wording style and sticking with it throughout all of your wedding stationery pieces. However, the save the date is an exception. Save the dates are casual by nature so you can word it however you like. Most couples use the save the date as a way to show personality and character rather than set a formal or informal tone for the wedding. We’ve given examples of both to help you decide what you prefer.

Formal Wording:
Save the Date
Steve and Joyce Brady
and
Luke and Carol Burns
request your presence at the marriage of
Erin Allison
and
Jacob Kent
as they celebrate their love
on Saturday, June twenty-sixth
two thousand twenty-one
at Decatur, Illinois

Invitation and details to follow.

Informal Wording:
Erin Brady
and
Jacob Burns
Are pleased to announce their wedding
on Saturday, June 26. 2021
in Decatur, Illinois

Invitation to follow.

Wedding Invitations
The wedding invitations are where you will begin your chosen wording style. There are a few key things to remember here. Formal wedding invitation wording will: 1. Spell out everything, 2. Use full names, 3. Use British spellings (favour instead of favor). Those are only a few of the rules you’ll need to follow. Read 10 Tips for Wording Formal Wedding Invitations to learn more.

Formal Wording:
Erin Allison Brady
and
Jacob Kent Burns
together with their parents
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage ceremony
on Saturday, the twenty-sixth of June
two thousand twenty-one
at one o'clock in the afternoon
Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church
3850 Lourdes Drive
Decatur, Illinois

Informal Wording:
Together with their families
Erin Allison Brady
&
Jacob Kent Burns
request the pleasure of your company
as they are united in marriage
Saturday, the 26th of June
two thousand twenty-one
at one o'clock in the afternoon
Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church
3850 Lourdes Drive
Decatur, Illinois

Invitation Envelopes
You’re probably wondering how much can we really change between formal and informal envelope addressing. The post office does have certain requirements for addresses after all, such as state abbreviations should always be used. The biggest difference is seen in the way you address the actual recipient(s). We suggest taking a look at How to Address Wedding Invitations for helpful advice and examples.

Formal Wording:
Mr. and Mrs. Noah McCarthy
101 Brookdale Avenue
Springfield, IL 62701

Informal Wording:
Noah and Sara McCarthy
101 Brookdale Ave.
Springfield, IL 62701

Response Cards
Follow your chosen wording style throughout the rest of your wedding invitation ensemble. Response cards are often very simple when it comes to wording but be sure to spell out the month and date for a formal tone. Going informal? Don’t worry about British spellings of words like “favour.” Go ahead and use “favor” or different wording all together.

Formal Wording:
The favour of a reply is requested
before June ninth
M
________Will Attend
________Not Able to Attend

Informal Wording:
Please reply on or before
June 9, 2021
M
________Persons Attending

Reception Cards
The wording on your reception cards may not change much between formal and informal. However, you can have more fun with informal wording.

Formal Wording:
The pleasure of your company
is requested at the Reception
immediately following the ceremony
Decatur Club
158 West Prairie Avenue
Decatur, Illinois

Informal Wording:
Let’s celebrate!

Join us for a Receptio
immediately following the ceremony
Decatur Club
158 West Prairie Avenue
Decatur, Illinois

Thank You Cards
The handwritten message you include with your thank you cards is more important than what you have printed on them but we have given a few examples here of what an formal thank you might look like vs. an informal thank you. Using Mr. and Mrs. with the last name is definitely a formal approach where as using only first names is always casual as you might expect.

Formal Wording:
Thank You
Mr. and Mrs. Brady
(handwritten message)

Informal Wording:
Thank You
Jacob and Erin
(handwritten message)