Who’s invited to the wedding?
Now that is a loaded question, isn’t it? There is no way we can tell you any hard and fast rules as to who should be invited to the wedding. The only rule we can stand behind in almost all situations is that anyone invited to a pre-wedding party should also be invited to the wedding, and even that rule has an exception. See Who’s Invited to the Bridal Shower.
There are so many factors to consider: the size of the venue, your budget, your family situation, how many close friends you have and so on. The variables never end BUT we have a great visual to help you. The ever-helpful Venn Diagram.
Creating a wedding guest list is all about relationships, and the Venn diagram below is great for helping you visualize your relationships in a new way. You can recreate this diagram however you wish. We’ve decided to show one diagram for the bride and/or groom and a second diagram for parents.
Wedding Guest List
A Helpful Guide for the Bride and Groom
- Friend + Other = Maybe Invite
- Friend + Family = Invite
- Family + Other = Maybe Invite
- Family Member + Friend + Other = Definitely Invite
Wedding Guest List
A Helpful Guide for the Parents
Now the circles have changed to include You (the bride or groom), Friends/Colleagues and Family. Parents don’t get an “Other” category because the other category is too far removed from you, the couple.
TIP: Determine your guest list first then give it to your parents so they can see if there is any crossover between their list and yours.
- Bride + Friend/Colleague = Maybe Invite
- Bride + Family = Probably Invite
- Friend/ Colleague + Family = Maybe Invite
- Bride + Friend/Colleague + Family = Definitely Invite
Another idea that’s a bit simpler is to determine who is definitely invited to the wedding, and then create a list of people you’re unsure about. Take the maybe list and place those names appropriately in the diagram. Now start moving names to the shared spaces where it makes sense. The names that fall within two or more categories are probably important enough to invite to the wedding.