Should I Send Wedding Invitations to Guests We Know Aren’t Coming?

On one hand, you want to be polite and invite them. On the other hand, you don’t want it to feel like you’re looking for a gift. Just like most wedding etiquette questions, the right answer depends on the situation.

Here’s our best advice if you find yourselves in this situation.

1. Never Assume a Guest Won’t Travel to Your Wedding

It's easy to assume some long-distance friends and relatives won't make the trip, but you might be surprised! Travel is so easy and affordable these days that you really have no idea who will decide to attend despite the distance.

And if you’re having a destination wedding, the same advice applies. Some loved ones will decide your wedding is a perfect excuse to book an overdue vacation.

2. Send an Invitation Unless a Guest Tells You Directly They Can’t Come

Always send an invitation unless you hear from the guest directly (not through word of mouth) that they won't be attending your wedding. And even then, you may still want to send one. Read on to hear why.

3. Consider Sending an Invitation as a Keepsake

Even if they can’t make it, close friends and relatives will appreciate a memento of your special day. Photo wedding invitations make especially nice keepsakes.

Worried about people feeling obligated to send a gift? Include a note that says the invite is a keepsake on behalf of the couple, no gift necessary. This is a fantastic way to include the elderly. Aging family members may find it difficult to attend the wedding but this will show them their absence is recognized and they are missed.

We know sending wedding invitations can be tricky, so if you have any questions left unanswered, reach out to our team of wedding experts. We’re always here to help make your invitation perfect for the two of you!