Wedding Invitation Dos and Don’ts

We’ve gathered a few of our most helpful tips when it comes to personalizing, addressing and sending your wedding invitations. We hope these words of advice help you when the time comes to invite friends and family to this very special day.

Wedding Invitation Dos and Don’ts

10 Wedding Invitation Dos

  • 1. Do be consistent with wording.
  • If you’re using formal wedding invitation wording, then be consistent throughout all the pieces of your stationery (invitation, response card, reception card, etc.). Learn how to write formal wording by reading 10 Tips for Wording Formal Wedding Invitations.
  • 2. Do list the bride’s name first.
  • Etiquette states that the bride’s name should appear first in the wedding invitation wording. You can deviate from this rule but sometimes it’s nice to stick with tradition, isn’t it?
  • 3. Do choose invitation colors that match your wedding colors.
  • If the design isn’t available in your colors, the wording on most wedding invitations can be customized to fit your specific color choices. Check out our Personalization Options page for more information.
  • 4. Do include the children.
  • For blended family ceremonies, we highly encourage using wedding invitation wording that incorporates the children. Read Blended Family Wedding Invitation Wording for some great examples.
  • 5. Do be different.
  • There are so many invitation styles to choose from, you don’t have to settle for an invitation that’s anything like the last 5 invitations you’ve received. A few of our favorite collections for being unique are Foil Wedding Invitations and Seal and Send Invitations.
  • 6. Do use online RSVPs.
  • An online RSVP service is perfectly acceptable. If you’re worried about the older generation, you can include a phone number for them to call. Also feel free to use both response cards and an online RSVP service.
  • 7. Do include directions.
  • You can include map cards with your invitations or offer directions on your wedding website. Either way, your guests will appreciate the added effort.
  • 8. Do let someone else address your invitations.
  • Whether you use our envelope addressing service when you order wedding invitations or hire a calligrapher for that gorgeous custom look, this will save you lots of time and stress.
  • 9. Do be diligent about recording responses.
  • You may be tempted to set the response cards aside on the counter or coffee table but make sure you record the responses right away or have a safe place to set all response cards until you have time to record them.
  • 10. Do keep an invitation as a keepsake.
  • Couples often forget to keep an invitation for themselves. Luckily, a friend or family member is always willing to give one up but setting one aside that’s in pristine condition is best.

10 Wedding Invitation Don’ts

  • 1. Don’t mention registry info.
  • Registry information may be shared on your wedding website, which can be listed on your wedding invitation or response card. You may also share this information via word of mouth.
  • 2. Don’t list “no children” on the invitation.
  • Address the inner envelopes to include the name of each person invited. This step tells your wedding guests exactly who is invited. You can also choose “limited-seats” wording for you response cards. Read How to Word Your RSVP Cards for an example.
  • 3. Don’t use more than two fonts.
  • We recommend using one script font as an accent lettering style and one block font as your main lettering style. This will ensure that your wedding details are readable.
  • 4. Don't mention pre- or post-wedding events.
  • Pre- and post-wedding events should not be mentioned on the wedding invitation itself. The rehearsal dinner information can be communicated by word of mouth or you can send rehearsal dinner invitations. For day-after events such as brunches and gift openings, include a separate information card with your invitation.
  • 5. Don’t forget to verify addresses in Google Maps.
  • As we all know, our phones don’t get us to the right location 100% of the time. We highly recommend checking all addresses in Google Maps and MapQuest to verify that the results are accurate. If they aren’t, you will need to include map cards with your wedding invitation ensemble.
  • 6. Don’t forget to stamp the response cards.
  • Stamping the response cards is a simple courtesy to your guests. It makes responding easier, which means you’ll receive more responses in a more timely fashion.
  • 7. Don’t forget to include meal choices.
  • Sometimes couples forget to include meal choices on their response cards. The caterer needs this information if you’re having a plated meal at your reception. If you’re offering a buffet meal, this wording is not necessary.
  • 8. Don’t set the RSVP Date too close to the wedding date.
  • You will want at least three weeks between the RSVP date and wedding date to contact late responders, give vendors a final guest count and create a seating chart (if needed).
  • 9. Don’t be vague about who is invited.
  • Make sure the name of each guest invited to your wedding is listed on the inner envelope. If your invitation doesn’t come with an inner envelope, make sure your response cards are clear about how many people are invited. We suggest customers use the phrase, “xx seats have been reserved for you.” You can read How to Address Wedding Invitations for more information.
  • 10. Don’t skip ordering extra invitations and envelopes.
  • You will more than likely need more invitations and envelopes than you think. Chances are you will forget to invite a few people and you might make some mistakes while addressing the envelopes. The cost of ordering extra is far less than placing a new order.