Let’s be real. The reason you’re having an adults-only wedding is really none of your guest’s business. But, they will most certainly ask. Here are the top 5 reasons most couples choose to celebrate their nuptials child-free:
- Formal Wedding
A formal wedding is not fun for parents if they have to look after children and it’s definitely not fun for children. See wording options #1 and #2 (see below) for the best way to traditionally tell folks to make it a date night.
- Limited Space
Many venues have a limited amount of seating, which means you have to limit your guest list. You certainly don’t have to say “no children” but you will want to be clear who is invited. We suggest option #4 below.
- All Our Friends Have Kids
We know you enjoy your friends’ children, and we’re certain your friends realize this as well. However, inviting everyone’s kids could be overwhelming (and expensive). We suggest using wording options #3 or #5 because they put a fun twist on “no children” wording.
- We Plan to Party Hard
Some couples plan one heck of a party! If your wedding will involve a lot of drinking and partying, we suggest wording options #2 and #4 again to let friends and family know they can leave the children at home (in a fun way).
- We’re Just Not Fans
You don’t have to feel bad about this but you do have to be polite. We suggest wording option #2 for sure and #1 if your invitation includes both inner and outer envelopes.
Now, let’s talk through how to properly word your wedding invitations so that your guests understand that their kids are not invited to your wedding.
- Address the Guests
Properly addressing your inner and outer envelopes is the first step toward letting guests know exactly who is invited. Be sure to read up on How to Address Wedding Invitationsto learn more about this important step.
- “No Children Please” or “Adult Only Reception”
You may place this wording at the bottom of the wedding invitation wording or on the reception cards. Keep it simple, keep it small. Your guests will see it, we promise.Examples:
Adults-only ceremony and reception
No Children please
- “Make it a date night!”
We really like this wording because it shares your message but it also encourages parents to have a good time. We suggest featuring this wording on your Reception Cards.Example:
Please make it a date night! Our wedding is for adults only.
- “We have X seats reserved for you!”
A great way to let people know exactly how many people are invited, this phrase becomes a part of your Respond Card wording. It’s perfect for weddings where you are allowing some children but not all children.Example:
Please reply by June 2nd
We have reserved __ seats for you (you hand-write in each number)
Name ____________________ (your guests writes in their name)
___ Persons will attend (your guests writes how many will attend – not to exceed the number you gave them above!)
- “Leave the Littles”
Now this is just cute! If you have friends and family with children you absolutely love but are choosing not to have at the wedding, this is a fantastic way to let guests know you really do care but your celebration is not intended for kids. Create a custom note on your Reception or Information Cards. You can also add the message to your wedding website.Example:
Please leave the littles! While we adore your children, our venue simply does not have the room for all the little ones.
Please make it a date night.