While the bride ultimately gets the final say as to what her bridesmaids wear, many brides are letting their girls choose the outfits they wear up at the altar. Check out the advantages and disadvantages of going this route:


There are so many wonderful things about letting go of control and letting your bridesmaids select the dresses that they wear on your wedding day. Here are just a few:

Gives you time to plan other things
As you find out once you get engaged, there is a whole lot that goes into wedding planning. Having one less thing on your to-do list can give you time to focus on other areas of your big day, whether that’s finding a photographer, picking out the perfect wedding invitations or deciding what linens to use at your reception.

Allows bridesmaids to feel comfortable
By giving your bridesmaids the power to choose their own dress, you’re allowing them to select a gown that they feel comfortable and confident in. Maybe you love the look of strapless dresses, but not everyone likes the way that they feel in that particular style. You want your girls to feel just as happy and at ease as you are on your wedding day.

Great for adhering to everyone’s budget
Not every one of your bridesmaids can afford the same dress. Some may be willing to spend more on a dress than others. Letting them pick out their own dress will make it easy for your bridesmaids to stay within their budgets.

Here are a few potential downsides of letting your girls select their bridesmaid dresses:

You don’t have full control
If you’re a control freak, having your bridesmaids choose their own dresses may not be the best idea. Otherwise, you’ll have to go shopping with each of them to make sure that the outfit they pick out matches your exact specifications.

Can be difficult to coordinate
Letting everyone choose their own dress means that you have to set certain guidelines. This will ensure that your bridesmaids look¬†coordinated on your big day. Give everyone a color family to stick to so the bridal party matches your wedding color palette. However, the shades that everyone chooses may not be as coordinated as you’re thinking. Before your bridesmaids purchase their dresses, you’ll want to take a look at all of them to make sure they blend well together.

Will you be allowing your bridesmaids to pick out their own dresses? Share your thoughts with us!