Alright, so what’s the deal with the multiple forks and knives? Well, the rule is to use your silverware from the outside in. The number of silverware pieces indicates the number of courses to be served. Once a utensil has been used, it should never touch the table again. You can leave it on your plate to be cleared along with the rest of your dinnerware that you have already used. There may also be a fork and a spoon up above your plate or bowl. This is the dessert spoon and fork, to be used only when eating dessert. You use the spoon for eating and the fork for pushing the food onto your spoon.
When you sit down at the table, your napkin will either be on top of your plate or next to it. Take the napkin, unfold it and place it on your lap. You’ll be happy you remembered this one if some of your wedding reception dinner almost ends up on your pretty white dress.
It’s traditional for the best man to make the first toast of the evening. It occurs after all wedding guests have been provided with a glass of champagne in which to toast with. It takes place as soon as everyone is seated and is made after the couple enters the reception. It should be fairly brief – no more than a minute or two. After all of the bridal members have made their respective toasts, the guests can speak up if they would like, clinking their glasses.
At a formal wedding, there are probably a lot more glasses than you’re used to using. You have your water glass, followed by the red wine glass, white wine glass and, of course, the champagne flute for toasting and celebrating.
Approved finger foods
There are just some foods that were meant to be eaten with your fingers. But is this acceptable at a formal wedding? It is if you’re eating any of the following foods:
- Fruits with stems
- Asparagus (who knew?)
- Corn on the cob
- Hors d’oeuvres
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