No matter who you’re talking with, money can always be a touchy subject. However, that doesn’t mean the topic should be avoided altogether. Before either of you decide on a number, hear each other out. It’s crucial to have an open and honest conversation about what each of you want when it comes to the wedding. Once you’ve both shared your goals and visions, calculate how much both of you can bring to the table, realistically. When you’ve decided on a number, stick to it.
Maybe you’ve always dreamed of a big wedding, but does your future spouse feel the same way? To help make things easier, look at the budget you have set. You may have wanted 200 people to come to your wedding, but you only have the finances set aside for 100. Compromise to come up with a number that both of you are happy with. And if you aren’t sure whether to invite someone or not? Do the one year test. Ask yourself if you’ve spoken to this person in the last year – if the answer is no, odds are you can keep them off the guest list.
It happens all the time – one person is set on exchanging vows at the beach, while the other half is more traditional and wants to say “I do” in a church. Don’t assume that your future spouse is on board with the same location you have in mind – talk it out. Elements like budget and number of guests may help the two of you decide.
If the topic hasn’t already come up, it’s a crucial conversation to have before tying the knot. Discuss if you would like kids, and if so, how many you had in mind. If you’re set on having kids, you don’t want to enter into a marriage not knowing that your future spouse feels differently. It’s okay to disagree on the number of children you think you want. Once a couple has their first child, they’ll have a better idea of how many children they really want.
Faith and morals affect a marriage more than people realize. It may not seem like a big deal now, but when children come into the picture, religion comes into play when deciding how to raise them. When your faith is aligned, it’s often the case that your value systems are more similar as well.
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