Set a number
You may have 13 best friends, but that would make for an enormous bridal party and it’s more money coming out of your pocket. Also think about your venue – would the number you have chosen fit up on the altar? You don’t want everyone to be squished. Try to match the number of groomsmen your groom has chosen to keep the party coordinated. But keep in mind, the more bridesmaids you have, the more people there are that are going to have to agree on a dress, shoes, hairstyle, bridal shower date, etc.
Choose your closest buds
The most important thing is that you choose those whom you feel closest to. Don’t make a decision based on what someone may think of you or your choices. This is your wedding day, and you want your very best friends standing right there next to you for support and love.
Compare your list to your grooms
While this is your bridal party, the groom may have some say in who you choose. For example, if he’s especially close with his sister, it’s proper etiquette to have her be one of your bridesmaids. And visa versa, if you have a brother and you want your spouse-to-be to include him, you can discuss the options to come to a decision that both of you are happy with.
If you have your eye on a Vera Wang bridesmaids dress, but one of your best buds is having financial troubles, don’t assume that they want to decline your invitation. If she does decline due to finances, talk with her to find another important role for her on your wedding day to show that she’s special to you.
Don’t choose based on gender
While it’s traditional to have men behind the groom and women behind the bride, it doesn’t have to be this way. If your best friend is a guy or if you’re dying to have your brother by your side for the big day, go ahead! Don’t let traditional gender roles decide your bridal party for you.
How are you planning on picking the people that will stand behind you on your big day? Share your thoughts with us!
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