Maybe your friend wants to invite the person that they’ve only been dating for two weeks. Or perhaps you don’t want your single friends to feel pressured into finding a date. It’s perfectly fine if you only want people at your wedding that you’re familiar with, but some couples worry that this will deter some guests from going. You don’t want anybody to be shocked when they receive their wedding invitation that’s only addressed to them, so be sure to tell your friends ahead of time that you aren’t planning on letting them have a plus one. When you tell them be sure to sound firm, if you sound unsure or guilty they may try to make you change your mind.
Friends of Parents and In-Laws
This is something that nearly every couple struggles with, especially if their parents are helping out with the wedding financially. Ultimately the decision is up to you and your partner, but in order to keep the peace you should talk to both of your parents in the beginning of the wedding planning process about how you’ll divide up the guest list. A good rule of thumb couples follow is to give both sets of parents control over 1/3 of the guest list, and leave the other 2/3s for the bride and groom. Tell your parents and future in-laws that you understand their desire to show off their newly married son or daughter. But that the seating capacity would make it impossible for them to invite everyone, or that you want to have an intimate wedding with people you’re close with.
After talking about wedding planning in the coffee line for the past few months a lot of couples feel like it would be rude to not invite their co-workers. Instead of devoting half of your guest list to your co-workers, consider having a special celebration at your house or at a near-by restaurant. Extend the invite out to everybody in the office to ensure that nobody feels left out, and keep it casual so that you don’t end up investing a lot of time or money in the event. Save invitations for the ceremony and reception to the co-workers you see outside of work and consider your good friends.