So here’s the skinny: Your inner envelopes will hold the invitation ensemble and will be fitted inside the outer envelope. On the cover of your inner envelope, you will put the title and last names of each individual guest you are inviting. This is a prime spot to clear up any issues regarding who exactly is invited. For example, if you’re inviting your old college roommate who you know is in a long term relationship, you can address the envelope as “Mr. Smith and Guest,” or you can print his significant other’s name on the envelope if you know it. If you are having a budget-conscious occasion and you do not wish to allow your old college buddy to bring a guest, you would simply address the inner envelope to “Mr. Smith.”
Now what about those outer envelopes? Well, the outer envelope will be used for mailing purposes, and so you will print the guests’ names and addresses on these. Common wedding invitation etiquette says that you should refer to each of your guests by title, first, middle and last names. The middle name is optional, of course (I don’t know about you, but I don’t even know many of my closest friends’ middle names!).
If you are having a more informal wedding, you can take an informal approach to your wedding invitations, too. For example, it’s okay to address your outer envelopes to “Rachel Barry” rather than “Ms. Rachel Barry.” If you’re having a family-friendly wedding, addressing your outer and inner envelopes properly can be a great way to indicate that children are welcomed guests. You would address the outer envelope as “Mr. and Mrs. Matthew Richardson and Family.” On your inner envelopes you would write, “Matthew and Samantha Richardson” for the first line, and on the second line, you would name each child, like “Kevin, Lisa and Molly.”
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