Don’t fret, though. You are definitely not alone – let’s just say I never got an A in speech class. Something changes when there is speaking involved. It’s like my brain and my mouth are suddenly strangers (I picture my brain talking into a cell phone to my mouth and saying, “Can you hear me now?”) I get the shaking knees, complete with the awkward stammers… It can be pretty uncomfortable to witness, and I can just imagine how it feels to be the one up there!
So, my best policy for dealing with wedding toast jitters is to prepare, prepare, prepare. If you suffer from similar paralyzing issues when put in front of a crowd, take the time now to think about what you are going to say as you raise your toasting flute.
Thankfully, most of the toasting will be directed at you and your partner (phew!). However, it is often custom for newlyweds to toast the bridesmaids, groomsmen and parents. Many couples even prepare a toast to their new partner. And in some situations, even if the couple doesn’t prepare a toast, they can get coaxed into saying a few special words to one another for your guests to hem and haw.
If you struggle with public speaking nerves, don’t avoid the situation until it is too late and you have to wing it. Take a few hours one day before your rehearsal dinner to peruse famous quotes about love and relationships and gather your thoughts. Don’t be afraid to jot down a few notes!
What do you think? Did your mother always teach you to prepare for the worst and hope for the best, too? Have a few tricks of your own to conquer public speaking tremors? Leave us a comment and let us know!