With Kristi’s wedding just a few weeks away, we thought it would be a great time to quiz her on the planning process. So, she took a few minutes away from her busy schedule (calling vendors, chats with mom, hair appointments and oh, that’s right…work) to answer a few of our burning questions. Kristi and her fiancé, Terry, have been together for eight years (engaged for three!). They met playing softball. Kristi was busy on her cell phone when she should have been playing third base. Terry was attempting to pitch but was confused about why his third basewoman was taking a phone call.
A bit of teasing, one wonderful blended family and eight years later, they are ready to say “I do”! Because Kristi appears to be incredibly calm about her impending nuptials, we had to ask –
What’s your wedding planning philosophy?
“My wedding planning philosophy is “it will all work out”. I can’t say that I have loved planning my wedding, but I haven’t hated it either. It has been stressful. We had to get right to work because we didn’t actually book our church and reception hall until February. Since then, we have spent just about every weekend doing some sort of wedding planning and we are determined to keep things as simple as possible and within our budget. We live in a small town and chose the local bakery/deli to do our catering and our wedding cake. The caterer’s mother owns a greenhouse and she is doing our flowers. I highly recommend hiring local for your vendors. It’s nice to have them close by and available if you need to change something. Our reception venue doesn’t have a liquor license so all the alcohol will be provided by us. That was one less vendor we had to hire. Terry’s daughter works for a DJ, so we naturally hired him to DJ the wedding. As you can see, everything has sort of just fallen into place”.
What’s been the best part about planning? “The best part of planning the wedding has been getting to make the decisions with my fiancé. When we started the process I didn’t think he would get that involved. It turns out I was wrong and I am really glad we have done it together. Plus we had the help of his daughter, Caroline.”
What’s been the worst? “To be honest, there really hasn’t been anything that was too bad. Decorations have been difficult because I’m not a crafty person and I don’t have the vision required to create a pretty reception. I can’t even make my house pretty. Anyways, I had originally wanted mason jar centerpieces, but after ordering our invitations and dresses our affair became a little more formal than originally planned. We couldn’t imagine making centerpieces ourselves and our mothers said they would help pay for a decorator. We met with the decorator for the 1st time 1.5 months before the wedding. Then it took almost 2 weeks to get our estimate back and it was too high. So, we had to meet again. We still ended up spending more money than we wanted, but our reception will be pretty and we don’t have to decorate. Yay!”.
Is there anything you’re nervous about? “I’m nervous about having too many people respond yes to our wedding. Terry has a really big family and between both of us our guest list was at almost 400 people (children included). Our respond cards were due on 5/21 and we still have over 150 guests that have not replied. We are very upset with our family and friends that have not replied. We would like to finalize the guest list for the caterer and decorator, but now we have to call a whole bunch of people to see if they are coming”.
How do you think you’ll feel when it’s all over and you’re a Mrs.? “Terry and I have been together a long time. We live together and are raising my son together. The relationship won’t really feel any different. The name change will be interesting and I will be really glad to finally say he is my husband and not just my boyfriend or fiancé. I will be really glad when it’s all said and done because the stress of planning is gone, but I know I will also look back and want to do it all over again. I’m sooo excited!”
We’re excited for Kristi too! We’ll bring more updates from her as her day approaches. 22 days and counting!