We’ve been talking a lot about having kids come TO your wedding and entertaining them once they’re there. But there’s another way to involve children in your special day — and that’s to have them IN your wedding party!
Our recent brides and brides-to-be sounded off on the topic. Read on for great advice and great ideas.
KID QUESTION #1:
Did you have children “officially” participate in your wedding? How?
Sarah: Nope, didn’t know any kids who would be young enough to enjoy it.
Mindy: Yes, I had a flower girl and ring bearer who walked down the aisle. I did not have them stand at the altar though. They were instructed to sit down once they reached the front.
Sara: Yes – a nephew and cousin as ring bearer and flower girl and a couple of younger cousins handed out sparklers following the ceremony.
Courtney: My cousin’s kids (ages 4 and 5) are going to be the ring bearer and flower girl in our wedding.
KID QUESTION #2:
Were there any issues or did everything go off without a hitch?
Sara: The ring bearer and flower girl were both just shy of 3 years old. Being so young, they did everything the pastor had said they shouldn’t — the flower girl sprinted down the aisle and the ring bearer refused to walk down without his parents and laid down beside them at the front of the church, but really this didn’t disrupt the ceremony and bothered no one.
Courtney: Our wedding isn’t until October, so I can’t completely answer this question. The kids that are participating in our wedding are pretty well behaved for their age and they are both very excited and have been “practicing” walking down the aisle and dancing, so I think they will be enjoyable to have participate in the big day.
KID QUESTION #3:
Are you happy you did it or totally regret it?
Sarah: I’m very happy with my decision not to have children in my wedding party.
Mindy: Happy! Some of my best wedding memories are of my adorable ring bearer and flower girl.
Sara: Happy – they are all special to us and it was a great memory to have them included.
Courtney: I think we will be happy that we asked the kids to participate. I think kids that are well behaved are cute and make everyone laugh at some point during the ceremony.
KID QUESTION #4:
Any advice to future brides about having children in the wedding?
Sarah: Do what makes you happy. Don’t let others get you down because they think you’re being inconsiderate by not having a ring bearer or flower girl.
Courtney: If you have kids in mind that you’d like to be a part of your wedding you should go for it. Don’t have too many, though. I have several small cousins but I only picked the two that I am closest with their parents, not the rest because I felt like they needed to be included. Sometimes kids can be difficult to work with and it isn’t fun when you’ve got a bunch of them that don’t want to cooperate for pictures, the ceremony, etc.
We’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas on this topic! Chime in with a comment on this post, or start up a conversation on our Facebook page!
P.S. If you do decide to have children in your wedding party, try something new! Have them carry the adorable Here Comes the Bride Banner we show above right before you rmake your entrance.