Tradition says you “should”… purchase the most formal and expensive wedding invitation you can afford.
You shouldn’t worry about…busting your wedding budget on an expensive wedding invitation just because tradition says so! You can choose ANY wedding invitation style as long as you love it and it fits your wedding theme. Be bold and choose an invitation with color and pattern. Take the casual route and invite guests with seal and send invitations for cost savings and convenience. But, if you happen to fall in love with a formal and lavish invitation and have to have it — by all means, go for it!
Tradition says you “should”… come up with an elaborate, complicated seating plan for your reception.
You shouldn’t worry about…telling guests exactly where they have to sit and whom to sit by at their tables! Here’s the modern option: number your tables and then arrange place cards at your reception entrance, noting the table number each guest is seated at. Guests can find their tables and then choose where to sit at the table. You’ll save time and lots of agonizing over details, and your guests will love being able to decide on their neighbors.
Tradition says you “should”…give all of your bridesmaids the exact same gift.
You shouldn’t worry about…trying to find ONE gift that will please ALL of your ’maids! There are so many unique, stylish bridesmaids’ gifts available now that you can choose one to match each of the girls’ personalities. Give a compact and cosmetic bag filled with pampering treats to luxury-lovers, give gift cards to a favorite restaurant for a gourmet cook, give luggage tags and a travel jewelry holder for a jet-setter…you get the idea. Have fun shopping!
Tradition says you “should”… serve a big, formal, white wedding cake for dessert at your wedding reception.
You shouldn’t worry about…trying to satisfy your sweet tooth with just one dessert! Think about serving different flavors of cupcakes all decorated to fit your wedding colors and theme. Or, arrange for a dessert bar that offers a variety of sweet treats guests can choose from themselves. You can also have a cute little wedding cake made for each reception table so guests can serve themselves — the cake will double as a centerpiece! Be sure to top each one with a fun cake top for an added touch of personality.
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Tradition says you “should”…give candy-covered almonds in netting for wedding favors.
You shouldn’t worry about…guests breaking their teeth on these traditional, but not-so-delicious favors! The sky’s the limit with it comes to wedding favors these days. Choose unique and stylish favor boxes, bags or containers and fill them with gourmet chocolates or any other treat that matches your theme or wedding destination. Another option: you don’t have to give candy favors at all! Treat guests to cookie cutters, local favorites like seashells, snow globes, Christmas ornaments, lottery tickets — whatever matches your theme and whatever you think guests will love taking home as a memento of your special day!