Before you get your wedding invitations signed, sealed and delivered, be sure you know the etiquette! Sending your invitations correctly (even if you’re having an informal, casual wedding) will help you get an accurate guest count, avoid confusion and keep your costs under control. And who doesn’t need that peace of mind? Here are the basics.
Everyone invited should receive a printed invitation with the names of all invited written clearly on the inner envelope.
- Don’t put up an invitation on the bulletin board at work, church or your local gym; you’ll never figure out who is coming and it will make figuring out the final head count impossible.
- Don’t write “and family” on the inner envelope, unless you want to extend the invitation to that guest’s ENTIRE family.
Only one invitation should be mailed to a couple.
- Single people should be encouraged to bring a guest by writing “and guest” after their names on the inner envelope.
- If an unmarried couple is invited, each person should receive an individual invitation.
- • Children under the age of 18 may be included on the invitation mailed to their parents. Write all names on the inner envelope.
- • Children older than 18 should receive their own invitations, even if they are living with their parents.
Everyone invited should receive an invitation.
- Send an invitation to your parents, grandparents, bridal party members and personal attendant, even though you know they’ll be at the wedding.
Be sure you have enough postage.
- Take an assembled wedding invitation, with all enclosure cards and envelopes, to the post office to have it weighed to determine the exact postage required before you run out and buy pretty stamps.
Mail them on time!
- Invitations should be mailed six to eight weeks before the ceremony.
- If your wedding falls on a holiday weekend or if you’re having a destination wedding, be sure to send a save the date card to everyone who will be on the wedding guest list to allow them to make plans and travel arrangements.
Use this info to come up with an exact guest count, order those invitations and start addressing!